ARE YOU LISTENING? (Blog post 10/05/10)
People are brought into your life for a reason. As the saying goes: some for a day, some for a season, some for a lifetime. There are people who come and go and leave no mark behind. There are others who leave a lasting impression. Some come quietly, while others scream until heard. No matter how blatant or subtle the message… the important question is did you hear it? LISTEN!
Sometimes these influential people are obvious—a parent, teacher, coach, mentor or best friend. They are the people in your individual circle of life that have been put there to advise, guide, inspire and teach. What they say and do are valuable, precious insights. It may not always be what we want to hear or do, but sometimes what we want isn’t always the best thing or the right thing for us. Trust them and LISTEN!
There are others that go unnoticed until months or even years later when the effect of their silent message is realized. Those are the messages to cherish because they are usually life changing. It’s the ah-ha moment when the light turns on and you realize what was being said. Sometimes it takes a hard life lesson to hear that message, a proverbial slap in the face, if you will. Other times, it’s a quiet, private moment during reflection, contemplation or meditation. Regardless, these moments can be rare, so LISTEN!
For a model or actor, the influential people in your inner circle are your agents, managers, coaches and, to an extent, family members. Yes, this is a business. Yes, agents and managers are in this business to make money. But, if you are smart and have surrounded yourself with people who are truly working with your best interest at heart, then what they have to say is not something that should be taken lightly. LISTEN!
We often seek counsel in many outside our inner circle, searching for the answer we so desire. Advice has been given. Direction has been given. An answer has been given. But, it is not the answer we want. So we keep searching. It is then that we often find ourselves in trouble, trusting the wrong people and heading down the wrong path. LISTEN!
Trust your inner circle of advisors. If you’ve got a good agent/manager, be careful not to jeopardize that relationship by undermining their expertise and knowledge. They know what their clients want and they know their business. There is nothing that will upset an agent more than if you go the opposite direction of the advice given because a friend, hairdresser, boyfriend, or whomever told you otherwise. Don’t wait until it’s too late and have to scramble to repair the damage done. It could be more than just your relationship with your agent or manager that is marred. It could be your career or your one chance that falls victim. In this business, the lifespan of the average actor or model is very short. Very, very short. Windows and doors typically only open once. Be smart. Be diligent. Be ready. But most of all, be LISTENING!